“YOU CAN BE HUMOUROUS”

‘Humor’ to some, it just comes naturally but some struggle with it like you and me. So what exactly is humor’s ability to make people laugh or the quality of making the environment lively or explaining a story in a way that people would love to hear you for some it is to make people feel comfortable around you and make you likely in others’ eyes yes it is all of the above it is a quality ability we all want to have though like me many of us struggle even to tell a joke in a funny way that it seems lousy and no one even laughs at it even people smirk on the fact that how did they make such a funny joke this unfunny yeah right. So we are the people who suck at joking many of us are introverts who never talk and some worse cases of introverts who are almost forgetting how to talk many might be Infj’s or Infp’s or some just starting with I who are struggling because of having a serious, solemn or earnest personality or maybe because you have great dark humor which might turn a situation from funny to probably this

Yeah, right, and then you yourself are too shocked where did that come from also why did I say that? it’s not though I don’t wanna say that, ‘it’s fine it’s okay we all make mistakes but, it’s not fine. To live in a society many of you might say why do we have to live in such a society I can go alone but

We have to stop pretending we are individuals that can go it alone. — Margaret Wheatley

So that is why you probably have to adopt these skills if you are a teenager then, unfortunately, the substantialness of this world might have started opening on to you and you are not able to swallow which is making you rational, cold and moody but you’re still trying to keep up with it applause for you. I have been through the stage where I just wanted to be invisible but that’s not how it works in real life connections relationships are necessary accessories and to my surprise and to yours as well real relationships actually exist. Well enough of the sarcasm moving forward.

Okay so now you might already be aware of why learning this skill is important but I will tell you what it can possibly do for you to make you want to learn it there are uncountable reasons why you should learn it such as to make friends make a comfortable environment around or if you are a job person it could help you a lot in making space for you and making people like you and create situations easy for you. If you are a school, or college student it would definitely help you go through possibly a lot of stressful situations just like a mouse out of a small hole. Besides, it can help you where ever you are. It can help people around you to be at ease and chill so not only you can see their actual personalities but also can find some actual friends. Now for the fact that you can’t become suddenly out of anywhere good at making jokes or funny conversations you might have to try to talk a lot participate in conversations and try to throw a few of your lousy jokes and get embarrassed a few times it’s alright if it happens well the situation might look like this

but it’s fine because

No one has ever been fired because of a bad joke.

— Andrew Tarvin

Okay, so now how can you learn this skill by experience I can tell you that reading books is definitely not going to help you it can guide you in a way like telling you essentials but might not be able to keep you with up-to-date jokes and humor but I still can not say that it’s completely useless being a nerd and an introvert I have read many books just in order to become better at making jokes and not to through savage jokes at people and make the environment not only uncomfortable but vengeful as if I have insulted them and taken their so-called respect and they are now going to avenge themselves hahaha.

So the best way you can learn humor is Clang Clang Clang

• by watching stand-up comedy.
• And by communicating with friends and try making some positive jokes.

Also do not forget the most important part, that humor is in between benign and threatening if it’s threatening it is basically dark humor that is fun for you but not for others or if it’s only benign then it’s no fun. So you need to remember these important facts and then practice it might take time but you can still learn it because humor is not something you’re born with it’s a skill and if it is a skill then you can learn it. it might take one month for someone and 1 year for in some people’s case but the thing is, in the end, you will have a handy skill that can make your hectic life way better in my case it took me 2 years to realize why do people are attracted to me but when they talk to me they don’t like me as if I am a skunk which seems cute from afar but when you go near it, it stinks lol. So you need to learn to laugh and then make people laugh for it you need to watch a lot of comedy shows and take notes of the comedian’s behavior and way of talking and then you will come to realize the question; what makes things funny?